Got a GIRL?
Monday, April 21st, 2008Here is some good advice if you are in a relationship and it is not quite balancing out right. Take it from me, someone who is in his third marriage and has learnt plenty about the opposite sex.
It's all well and good to have a partner, but there is a line that you need to be aware of that is at a feelings level. It's the power of one sided idolizing, something I definitely got wrong in my second marriage.
The physical attraction was so strong that it too overtook my head and eventually my heart. It helped mess the marriage up because I placed her on a pedestal. Now I know that some would not have it any other way, but it is not the right way. I am now blessed to have learnt that hard lesson, she ultimately left me for another more balanced relationship (unfortunately he was married though, oh well, I'm released because of that).
Jesus, during His time on Earth, proclaimed that now we are saved and submitted to Him, we are not Slave or Free, not Jew or Gentile, not Man or Woman but one in Christ. We are equal but different, and I believe that we can also take that right type of order into our relationships. BY RAISING OUR PARTNER TO A LEVEL ABOVE OURSELVES, WE ACTUALLY MAKE THEM FEEL OUT OF PLACE OR MISPLACED. At first the feeling ROCKS but then they become so use to the idea that human nature takes advantage of it. Your partner slowly loses respect for you and Love dies.
While Jesus had an awesome take on servant hood, while on one hand washing His disciples feet, He also knew exactly who He was and where He stood on this relationships deal. His kind of sacrifice draws all men near to try to hear His message from a wooden cross. He looked down upon us and said "Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do". Guess what came next? Our creator did forgive us for turning our backs on Him and discarding Him.
So don't turn your back on what God has provided for you as a Woman and a Man. It is one of the most beautiful things about life. While you think you are doing the LOVING THING and picking her or him up above yourself, you are actually putting the whole thing out of balance.
Do yourself a favor, if you want to idolize something then idolize the big G.O.D. (Good Old Dad!). He will guide you in you relationships, for He is the master of all the interaction of humankind. By getting the right ideal of equality, that Jesus speaks of, you will also find that YOU have the same level of importance as anyone else.
